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Kristen Warms's avatar

I love your note about gardening and starting small. I am actually a garden coach! This is what I tell my clients all the time -- just start, it doesn't have to be perfect. Truthfully, in gardening it never will be. I too am trying to redefine what it means to be alive in this era of hyper-productivity and superficial validation. If inclined, my substack -- Slow Fox Living -- is all about finding ways beyond that. Love to connect with more folks on this journey. https://kwarms.substack.com/

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Rachel Ward's avatar

Thanks for sharing your gardening wisdom! The idea of done is better than perfect is a lesson I’m learning.

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Kristen Warms's avatar

Same 😊

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Enna Razal's avatar

This book… 🥹 was the first literature I came across some 3 years ago, when I was quite a novice to a very personal healing journey. I haven't yet had a look at your writing or why you used a photograph of the book “What happened to you” for a cover but I was hooked. Immediately (and will now venture further into the why of your post).

Read your post now. Ha! Especially the first part fits nicely to what I have come to ponder just here in a poetic way:

The impact of caregivers on their children.

https://open.substack.com/pub/ennarazal/p/hridaya?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=4n4jmq

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Rachel Ward's avatar

Thank you! Self help gets a bad rap but I respect people taking responsibility for their healing and growth.

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Travis McMullen's avatar

This was a great read over my morning coffee. As a new parent, I am spending a lot of time thinking about the example we are setting as parents and how we are showing the world to our baby.

At the same time we have also been talking about growing some vegetables so what a great reminder.

Thanks for sharing your three things

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Rachel Ward's avatar

Thank you! I had no idea parenting would shove me on a self-growth rocket ship.

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Anshu Joshi's avatar

Gonna add What Happened to You to my reading list.

It's the first time I've heard about "eliciting behavior" as a concept, and how you related it to yourself and your parenting of your children has me thinking that I should read the book and maybe reflect on my own life and my treatment of others.

A great recommendation. I look forward to more from you, Rachel :)

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Rachel Ward's avatar

Thank you! The book is so fascinating and gave me lots to think about.

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Priti yadav's avatar

Subscribed. Do subscribe

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Marqv's avatar

Hi Rachel, I would very much be interested in hearing your thoughts on my book.

“It explores the ethical complexities of interspecies relations through the lens of an advanced alien civilization called the Jacksons. The novel challenges readers to consider how easily a more advanced civilization might view humans as a resource, mirroring humanity’s own treatment of other species on Earth.

It can be found here — https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/228994545-the-jacksons-debate

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Tom Barrie Simmons Author's avatar

My goodness, I'm so glad I read this instead of going back to sleep (it's gone two in the morning) I have long wondered about the nature / Nurture debate.

However, it had never occurred to me that we elicit behaviour from others according to our upbringing.

I believe there are two things to remember when bringing up children, the best thing you can teach them is how to think, and the best thing you can give them is your time.

When my daughter was about 7 1/2 years old, she said to me one day, quite out of the blue, “daddy, we're all much happier now mummy has gone aren't we?”

It wasn't until she was a mother herself, that she told me what happened when I was not around and she was a toddler.

Now, I am a great grandfather and I feel so privileged.

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